The Great Indian Wedding... Speaking as an experienced soul

From the mallneeru, hoovelya, naandi, varapooje, reception, dhaare, sobalakki.... The rituals are mindboggling. And that's just a simple expression one can give to it. The innumerable small items, which are at the end only a representation of our culture are given so much importance with their sheer presence, that it makes you feel the marriage ceremony cannot proceed without it.


There is an apt kannada adage for this. "Mane katti nodu. Maduve maadi nodu". Which means that one must build a house and arrange for a marriage to truly understand what difficult tasks are. And boy is it true or what?

We are called the generation for 'instant gratification' not without reason. It's painful to go through it.


It's just much ado about nothing. That's the feeling i came back with post the wedding. It all boils down to the boy and the girl making promises of companionship to one another. And for this there are 25,749 rituals! Everyone's tired, and spent in energy.

Frankly speaking, and reflecting on a previous blog, Sandeep and I just performing an agni homa and taking oaths of togetherness would have sufficed. Both families went back with tons of exhaustion. The need for it was never there at all. I honestly feel the same as i did prior to the marriage ceremony. I was a companion to Sandeep then, i still am now and i will always be. The was the will of destiny. Having a ceremony did not make a difference to us. It only stressed us out.

Marriage ceremonies are a social obligation. I'm probably not as happy as i would've been if this had been a sweet simple affair. Point made, blog written. Moving on to the next one. :)